[Image: A picture of a tall, very thin Black woman with her shoulder over a shorter, older white man wearing traditional Orthodox Jewish clothing on a New York sideway.]
“This one is very serious, guys:
I came upon these two on the sidewalk. They were having a conversation. “Excuse me,” I said, addressing the girl: “I’m sorry to interrupt, but is there anyway I can take your photo?”
“Why would you want my photo?” she asked.
“Because you look beautiful,” I said. And she did. She was Sudanese. There is a very distinct beauty among people from the Sudan, and she was filled up with it. Suddenly the man cut in:
“I was just telling her she was beautiful,” he said.
Naively, I assumed I had just walked up on one stranger giving a compliment to another. I wanted to capture the moment. “Let me take your photograph together,” I said. The man seemed reluctant, he started smiling nervously and inching away. But the girl called him back.
“Come take a picture with me,” she said. Encouraged by her attention, he returned. She put her arm around him, and I took the photo.
As I examined the photos on my camera, the man started whispering to the girl. She answered him in a loud voice: “I told you! I’m not that kind of girl.” She seemed agitated now. Finally sensing that I had misread the situation, I stepped between them. The man began hurrying down the sidewalk.
When the man left, the girl’s demeanor changed completely. She seemed shaken. Her eyes were tearing up. “He just offered me five hundred dollars to go out with him,” she said. “And then when I said ‘no,’ he offered me one thousand. Why does this always happen to me?”
“It happens a lot?” I asked.
“All the time,” she said. “I’m sorry I’m getting emotional. I just can’t go out of my house without this kind of thing happening. I have a son. I’m a mother. I would never degrade myself like that. I just don’t understand why this keeps happening.”
“Do you mind if I tell this story?” I asked.
“Please,” she said. “Tell it.”
Let’s hope this man, and all men, realize the emotional damage they are inflicting on the women they try to buy. In the meantime, feel free to SHARE.*
Dear Tumblr, fuck you for trying to erase this.
I’m saving this post because as many times as Tumblr tries to erase this woman’s story and act like anything about this was okay, that’s as many times as I’m reposting it. They can either cut me off or stop being assnuggets about this. whichEVER.
Stalking Latino Women: “In another instance, during a crime suppression operation, two MCSO officers followed a Latina woman, a citizen of the United States, for a quarter of a mile to her home. The officers did not turn on their emergency lights, but insisted that the woman remain in her car when she attempted to exit the car and enter her home. The officers’ stated reasons for approaching the woman was a non-functioning license plate light. When the woman attempted to enter her home, the officers used force to take her to the ground, kneed her in the back, and handcuffed her. The woman was then taken to an MCSO substation, cited for ‘disorderly conduct,’ and returned home. The disorderly conduct citation was subsequently dismissed. —
10 Worst Things Arizona’s Racist Sheriff Joe Arpaio Has Done | Civil Liberties | AlterNet
i appreciate that the top ‘worst’ things done pinpoint what this asshole has done to Latinas. I am highlighting this section in particular because Driving While Colored is far far FAR too often represented as something only men of color have to deal with.
having said that, i do wish that they had also highlighted what is being done to trans Latinas—if cis women are being physically humiliated and shamed with their period blood, I can’t even imagine what trans women are going through. especially when trans women in detention centers that AREN’T run by this asshole are in horrific situations.
I’ve seen this shit before and have been meaning to write about it.
Imagine an abusive relationship (can work with romantic relationships and/or with family) and this is said by the abuser:
“Why do you want to leave me? I allowed you to live in my house, and I make all the money. You’re dependent on me. YOU need ME. Nobody will ever love you like I do, and I have everything you need right here. All you need to do is behave and say with me. Why do you want to leave me?”
It’s the EXACT SAME shit abusers tell their victims so that the victims stay, and the abusers retain power and control.
And you’re not good people.
They might be subtle, but these are threats. And you’re trying to make false promises of “equality” if ONLY PoC submit to you and behave the way you want us to.
And you should be able to step on our foots all you want to, but we better not complain about it if we REALLY want equality, which YOU try to set the standards for.
But, you know, you are “trying to help” us. Because you’re a “good person.”
White people who think this way and tell PoC who tell them to go away, “But don’t you want equality? We are the ones in power and COULD give it to you if you would just act how we want you to act and say what we want to hear!”
It’s intimidating bullshit. You are THREATENING PoC into submission, waving around your privilege and power and threatening to use it against us if we don’t submit. You are crossing our physical, emotional, intellectual, and time boundaries all at the same time and saying “we must not want equality” if we try to enforce them while you invade them.
Nobody has to teach you shit, and nobody is obligated to hold your hand, change their tone, or take the time to accommodate their personal spaces for you.
And who the hell would want to be “equal” to an abuser like you?
It’s impossible. You actually don’t want equality. All you want is control over others and will do and say anything to get people to submit to you.
PoC and marginalized people who get this from privilege people, RUN, don’t just walk, RUN away from them and blast them for the abusers that they are. Please do NOT fall for this shit.
In the end, you cannot reason with abusers. Just walk away, and don’t even bother wasting your time.
After the sentencing, Rep. Corrine Brown confronted State Attorney Angela Corey in the hallway, accusing her of being overzealous, according to video from CNN affiliate WJXT.
“There is no justification for 20 years,” Brown told Corey during an exchange frequently interrupted by onlookers. “All the community was asking for was mercy and justice,” she said.
Corey said she had offered Alexander a plea bargain that would have resulted in a three-year prison sentence, but Alexander chose to take the case to a jury trial, where a conviction would carry a mandatory sentence under a Florida law known as “10-20-life.”
The law mandates increased penalties for some felonies, including aggravated assault, in which a gun is carried or used.
Corey said the case deserved to be prosecuted because Alexander fired in the direction of a room where two children were standing. —
Florida woman sentenced to 20 years in controversial warning shot case - CNN
Fuck. This. Shit.
Between Marissa Alexander’s sentencing and the asshole selling Trayvon gun range targets, I’m done with Florida. Done.
Precious Natural Babygirl
oh my uterus
(Source: naturallycme, via karnythia)
Holy crap, is she gorgeous. Just ridiculous amount of perfection.
She is elebindy pretties.
Mitt Romney Inadvertantly Teaches Us A Lesson About The Long Term Effects Of Bullying -
Consider the kind of man Romney is. He has not a bit of compassion, empathy, or regard for people other than himself and the people he holds dear1. He casually destroys people’s lives, makes their jobs disappear, then laughs and makes jokes about it. His ever-changing political stances prove that he doesn’t hold values, he pretends them, and says whatever is politically expedient no matter who it hurts.
And he knows he can get away with it, because he’s been getting away with imposing his will on others in a violent manner since school. No teacher, no principal, no student challenged or punished him for what he did to that kid.
Mitt Romney is a perfect example of why the problem of bullying needs to be addressed at all times, wherever it happens.
Maria in the comics
She may have been a white Russian woman at some points, and the cartoon did darken her noticeably, but in Civil War and Secret Invasion, the comic events where she played a pivotal role, she looks a hell of a lot like a light-skinned WoC to me.
And given that sometimes she’s white and sometimes she’s not, and that there was a full cast almost wholly consisting of white guys, would it have killed them to go the ‘not’ route?
Word. You know who would have been an awesome Maria Hill? Michelle Rodriguez.
Gov. Jan Brewer on Friday signed into law a bill to cut off Planned Parenthood’s access to taxpayer money funneled through the state for non-abortion services. —
Arizona Gov. Jan Brewer (Wicked Witch of the West) Signs Planned Parenthood Funding Ban (via tinfoilandtea)
Fuck you Jan
Fuck you Jan
Fuck you, Jan
Fuck you, Jan
Fuck you, Jan
here’s another case of white supremacy and heteropatriarchy intersecting. because in arizona—they’ve been doing this shit against undocumented women for a long time. That’s how they made the restriction of basic health care *MAKE SENSE*. through the bodies of people who they deem can “drop anchors.” I promise you—there were women who are citizens who TOTALLY supported the restriction of health care services to immigrant women and are now astonished that it happened to them too. and I promise you that there are now *F*eminists who are going to be outraged over this and will never EVER say we’re going to fight for our right to control our reproductive health by standing up to white supremacy. I promise you that planned parenthood will NEVER say this was about anything more than “the war on women.”(via marshmallowmegamama)
being ya know human
are specific , unique individuals want to be loved and cared and sexed etc in personal deeply felt ways ….
who are unfairly asked to not need or compensate or correct or sell their lives
and all I really ant is the world where we get to enjoy the things that make us US without having to have a quarom , referendum,meeting
unless we CHOOSE it
WHY IS THIS HARD